Gottman Method

The goals of the Gottman Method are primarily applied in couples therapy. Research-based interventions are used to reduce conflict and increase intimacy, improve friendship and respect, deepen connection and affection, and create changes that enhance a couples’ shared goals.

Three main areas of a relationship are targeted in Gottman sessions. These are friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. The therapist’s goal is to help their clients build stronger relationships overall and to set them up with effective ways to cope in the future when issues arise.

Common issues addressed with the Gottman Method:

• Frequent conflict and arguments

• Poor communication

• Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation

• Specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, money, and parenting

The Gottman Method focuses on nine components of healthy relationships known as “The Sound Relationship House Theory.”

1. Build Love Maps

2. Share Fondness and Admiration

3. Turn Towards Instead of Away

4. The Positive Perspective

5. Manage Conflict

6. Make Life Dreams Come True

7. Create Shared Meaning

8. Trust

9. Commitment

To learn more about these components and the Gottman Method, see this site.